Welcome to the big world of Nursery and Preschool

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Welcome to the big world of Nursery and Preschool
 
Learn what you can do to make this big transition to nursery easier for your child. You’ll find a timeline for all the things that need to be done to prepare for nursery and guidance on saying a “nice goodbye” on your child’s first day.
If your child is starting nursery this Autumn, you may be approaching this milestone with conflicting emotions. You’re probably excited about all the fun (with expectation) your child will have and the new friends she’ll make. At the same time, you may feel a little sad that your baby is venturing out into the big world without you. These emotions are normal. Your child is also bound to have a host of feelings about this transition, feeling proud to be a ‘big kid’ but at the same time worried about being separated from you and starting something unfamiliar.
 
Having Fun With Nursery and Preschool Preparation
 
There’s a lot you can do in the weeks before to get ready for the big day. But try to keep your efforts low-key. If you make too big a deal out of this milestone, your child may end up being more worried than excited. Here are some ideas to keep the focus on fun.
 
Use pretend play to explore the idea of nursery and preschool.
 
Take turns being the parent, child, and teacher. Act out common daily routines, such as saying goodbye to mummy and/or daddy, taking off your coat, singing songs, reading stories, having circle time, playing outside, and taking naps. Reassure your child that preschool is a good place where she will have fun and learn. Answer her questions patiently. This helps children feel more in control which reduces their anxiety.
 
Read books about nursery and preschool.
 
There are many books about going to nursery/preschool available from the public library in your area. Choose several to share with your child over the summer before school starts. Talk about the story and how the characters are feeling. Ask how your child is feeling.
 
Make a game out of practicing self-help skills
 
These skills include unzipping her coat, hanging her coat on a hook, putting on her backpack, fastening her shoes. For example, you might want to have a “race” with your child to see how quickly she can put on her shoes. When you play school together, you can give your child the chance to practice taking off her coat, zipping her backpack closed, and sitting “crisscross applesauce.” If your child will be bringing lunch, pack it up one day before school starts and have a picnic together. This will give her the chance to practice unzipping her lunch box and unwrapping her sandwich—important skills for the first day!
 
Play at your new nursery/preschool.
 
Visit your child’s nursery together. Ask when you can tour the nursery with your child. Play on the nursery playground a few times before your child starts the programme. These visits increase your child’s comfort with and confidence in this new setting.
Worries and Watching
Your child may also have some questions or concerns about starting nursery/preschool, either before or after he starts in the fall. Help him get ready with these two key strategies:
 
Listen to your child’s worries.
 
Although it’s tempting to quickly reassure your child and move on, it’s important to let your child know that his worries have been heard. No matter what they are, big or small, children’s worries about nursery/preschool can significantly influence their experience there. Will you remember to pick him up in the afternoon? Will his teacher be nice?
Let your child know it’s normal to feel happy, sad, excited, scared, or worried. Explain that starting something new can feel scary and that lots of people feel that way. It can be helpful to share a time when you started something new and how you felt. When you allow your child to share her worries, you can help her think through how to deal with them. For example, if she is worried about missing you, the two of you can make a book of family photos to keep in her cubby and look at when she is lonely. Also the transition that we have at the nursery will enable you for the first week to transition into the nursery together. We believe that allowing your child to have your support during this week, knowing that their parent is doing it with them is far less daunting than just leaving your child in a new environment with them not knowing anyone. This can be an issue for some parents as it may interfere in their work life, but we have found that a child who has been allowed to transition slowly into their new environment is less likely to cause stress later on in the nursery year.  But saying that, every child is unique in their development, and it is up to the parents and us to make this transition calm.
 
Notice nonverbal messages.
 
As much as 3-year-old may talk, most are not yet able to fully explain how they are feeling or what they are worried about. Your child may “act out” her worry by clinging, becoming withdrawn, or by being more aggressive. Another common reaction as children take a big move forward is to actually move backward in other areas. For example, if your child is fully potty trained, she may start to have toileting accidents. She may ask that you feed or dress her even though she can do these things by herself.
It is natural to be frustrated by this regressed behaviour, and you may be concerned that if you do these things for her, she won’t go back to doing them herself. In fact, letting her play this out often leads to children returning to their “big kid” selves sooner. Remember that your child is facing—and managing—a big change in her life. She may need more support, nurturing, and patience from you while she makes this transition.
 
The Nursery/Preschool Countdown: What to Do and When
 
The last few weeks before starting nursery/preschool seem to fly by! As you begin the countdown to the first day, here are some things to keep in mind:
 
During the 2 Weeks Before Nursery/Preschool Starts:
 
  • Purchase a backpack together with your child. If possible, let your child choose it herself. This gives him a sense of control and emphasises the fact that he is a “big kid” starting nursery/preschool.
  • Label all items—backpack, shoes, blanket, teddy bear, etc.—with your child’s name and teacher’s name in permanent ink. Ask your nursery if they have these labels.
  • Contact the nursery/preschool’s ‘nurse’ if your child has medication that he or she takes on a daily basis. There will be special rules and forms to fill out for your child to receive medication at nursery. Please ensure to fill in all the required medical records that the nursery provides.
  • Figure out how your child will get to nursery and how she will come home. Talk to your child about the morning and afternoon routine so that she understands that she will be safe, okay, and cared for. Make sure your child meets her before- and/or after-school caregiver, if you are using one.
  • Start using your child’s “school bedtime.” Children often go to bed later as the summer months, and longer days, kick in. Help your child get into a nursery/preschool schedule by keeping to her school bedtime, beginning about 2 weeks before school starts.
The Night Before Nursery/Preschool
 
  • Answer any last-minute questions from your child.
  • Let your child choose (nursery-appropriate) clothes for her first day. Or if they would like to wear the nursery/preschool uniform?
  • Make sure that your child goes to bed on time.
  • Pick a bedtime that gives your child a good night’s sleep before the first day. Keep the bedtime routine soothing and relaxing. Don’t focus too much (or at all!) on the first day of nursery/preschool unless she wants to.

 

The First Day
 
  • Wake up early enough so that you and your child don’t have to rush to get to nursery/preschool.
  • Make breakfast for your child and, if possible, sit down to eat together—or at least talk with her as she eats and you get ready.
  • Review the day’s routine (what nursery/preschool will be like, how your child will get to nursery/come home).
  • Pack your child’s backpack together. If your child is bringing lunch, select foods that you know are her favourites. Having some familiarity on her first day is helpful as she adjusts to so many changes.
  • Let your child choose a special stuffed animal or blanket to bring to nursery with her. These “happy-items” can help children make the transition from home to nursery, and can also make nap-time easier, too. You may want to send your child with a family photo or favourite book as well. These familiar objects can help if she feels lonely during the day.
Saying a ‘Nice’ Goodbye
These strategies can ease the jitters of separating on your child’s first day at nursery/preschool.
 
Plan to stay a little while.
 
Staying for 2 hours for the first few days can help ease the transition. Together, the two of you can explore the classroom, meet some other children, do some activities organised in the classroom and give reassurance to your child. If she is having a harder time getting engaged, you may want to ask your child’s teacher to stay with your child as you say goodbye so that when you leave, she can turn to another caring adult for support. The reason why we do a staggered transition is allowing your child to become comfortable and at ease in their new surroundings.
 
Keep your tone positive and upbeat.
 
Children pick up on the reactions of the trusted adults in their lives. So try not to look worried or sad, and don’t linger too long, after it is time to say goodbye. Say a quick, upbeat goodbye and reassure your child that all will be well.
 
 
Think about creating a special goodbye routine.
 
For example, you can give your child a kiss on the palm to “hold” all day long. Or, the two of you can sing a special song together before you leave. Goodbye routines are comforting to children and help them understand and prepare for what will happen next. We have found that being honest with your child is the best policy to have. For example; if your heading to the local supermarket, then tell them that you are going there.
 
 
Resist the Rescue
 
Try not to run back in the classroom if you hear your child crying, as upsetting as this can be. This is a big change and your child may, quite understandably, feel sad and a little scared. But if you run back in, it sends the message that she is only okay if you are there and it is likely to prolong your child’s distress and make it harder for her to adapt. Rest assured, our teachers have many years of experience with helping families make the shift to nursery/preschool. Instead, you can wait outside the classroom for a few minutes to ensure that all is well, or call the nursery later in the morning to check in.
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